It is awkward being around a couple fighting, right? Right in the middle of every one- public and intense- and no where to hide. We saw one this weekend. In a trip to Lowe’s for price researching, my husband and I came upon an argument in the parking lot. Oh! I was beyond giddy. Not my finest moment, I assure you. Did my husband even park the car before I spilled out? It’s like bad reality TV- in person! As we non-nonchalantly walked passed the couple, we knew what stage we had come upon: the silent treatment. Oh, the Mrs. was upset! And, we knew why, too: they purchased two (lovely) outdoor chairs… two lovely, outdoor chairs that were too big to fit in their car. Eek.
Joseph grabbed my hand and whisked me past them. He confided in me that he wanted to wish “the poor sap ‘good luck'”- ’cause he’s gonna need it.
We’ve had those fights. The screaming yet-don’t-care-who’s-looking fights. Thankful no one wished my man luck during those! Thankful I have, on most days, found a life preserver. Rather, a relationship preserver. It’s adjustable, not fun to implement, and should be well-past-use date by now! It’s the age old classic: biting my tongue. Adjustable: sometimes, it is quite the comment I am sitting on! Not fun to implement: who enjoys quieting their comments for the sake of a relationship? I wanna burst with comment!! Use date past? Likely, I keep using it over and over and over. But, I want my marriage to work.
I sound like a broken record sometimes, I am sure, but it is so important to value your marriage. It is important to value that couple. I sure knew what she was feeling- I have been there before! I valued seeing her husband, though. He was beat-up verbally by her. We watched as he walked, emasculated, around trying to fix the situation. I never want my husband to appear as a little boy before me because I have whittled him to sure. Our hearts went out to him. I wanted to give her a kind word or gentle encouragement. Really: is a spoiled afternoon with it?
We got an estimate on the hardwood flooring we’ve been eying (to replace our ruined carpet). It was too pricey right now… but a girl and her husband can dream! And we found a less expensive carpet we can agree on. Even cheaper, it will have to wait. Oh, well. Important isn’t always urgent… We walked back to the car to find the couple still at odds. As we pulled away, we decided to throw them a preserver. We drove back around to help drive the chairs home for them, but they had someone else pull up the same time we did and began loading the chairs in a truck. Good call.
Joseph and I remarked about their ruined afternoon, though I hope she simmered down and her husband built back up. I smiled, and we wished this would be a story the couple would one day laugh about. Laughter strengthens a marriage. So, next time you’re about to fight, skip to the laughs, and you will be glad you did.
Happy Monday. Happy Labor Day. Love, L