I finally finished watching last night’s Bachelor episode. Oh, the drama. Of course, ABC makes it sound way more outrageous than it actually is/was, but, it’s all about numbers- isn’t it?
I was giving my hubbie the play by play this evening over dinner. The back and forth between Andi and Juan Pablo. She’s not happy with him, and she thinks he doesn’t care because he’s not asking questions of her and her family. And, I felt sympathy for him. Now, before anyone gets upset at me, I am giving him the benefit of the doubt. Because, I was the same way with my hubbie while we were dating.
My husband has an engineer mind. He sees things differently than the rest of the world. He’s smart and analytical and approaches life as such. Like, when we were getting to know each other, he googled things, like, “Top Ten Things I Wish I Knew Before I Got Married” and “Questions to Ask Your Significant Other,” and he would ask me (often through e-mail) these questions. He asked me about my family, my relationships with friends, and about past relationships. He asked me about dreams and goals and basic dog or cat, hot or cold preference questions. I remember him asking if I had any questions for him. Umm. Not really… What’s your favorite color?
That’s when I felt sympathy for Juan Pablo and wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. I am the kind of person who didn’t need to know some of these things. I am an optimist. My dear hubbie is a realist. And, while I watched Andi get so irritated at Juan Pablo, I thought: it’s all lost in translation. Sure, there seems to be some cultural disconnect, but I think it’s a personality disconnect. I know: Joseph and I have had a few bumps in the road to understanding each other. Andi kept getting upset that he kept saying everything would be “okay,” but I think it was a tick. His tick is saying “okay”. That’s what he does, that’s who he is, and I don’t believe that he was meaning to disrespect her.
Some of us need to ask dozens of questions before knowing if someone’s the right fit for us. And, some of us don’t need to know anything at all except that the other person will love us and be true. And, in my opinion, that is okay.
Happy housewife Wednesday, Laura